Do not grieve the Holy Spirit

Sep 27, 2025    Lars Dahl

unkhouse Beacon – Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit


And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption, Ephesians 4:30 NKJV


Paul isn’t talking about a random sin here. He’s connecting our everyday attitudes and behaviors, especially relational ones, to the heart of God.


In the verses around it, Ephesians 4:25–32 NKJV, Paul lists things like lying, uncontrolled anger, stealing, corrupt speech, bitterness, rage, and unforgiveness.


These are not just “bad habits”; they wound relationships and, in doing so, wound the heart of the Spirit who dwells in us.


To “grieve” the Spirit is to act in ways that are contrary to His nature; ways that disrupt unity, holiness, and love among believers.


How to Avoid Grieving Him


Paul gives the antidote right after the warning: Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you, Ephesians 4:32 NKJV


So, we avoid grieving the Spirit by:

•Walking in love and forgiveness (even when it’s hard).

•Living truthfully and transparently (no hypocrisy).

•Keeping our speech wholesome (no tearing down, but building up).

•Choosing unity over division (humility over pride).


Choose wisely, Saints, because we are responsible for our choices, both good and bad.


Have a great day!


Lars